What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of “being beautiful”? Nice smile with pearl white teeth? Beady eyes with luscious long lashes?
Now what comes to your mind when you think of what it means to be a beautiful person?
A person’s true and inner beauty goes beyond physical maintenance; it is having a beautiful and transparent mind, attitude, character, judgement and heart – all of which are probably more important than the beauty of your physical features.
How we act or remain in difficult situations; how we treat those who hurt us; how we ensure we constantly uplift negative people; how we speak to and of others, ourselves and the circumstances we experience all reflect the state of our inner beauty…
Approaching situations and people without the fear of being rejected, defeated or put to shame can help grow a beautiful character which is strong and courageous. Not in a prideful manner, but in a way where one continues striving, pushing and trying despite having either failed once, or having witnessed others fail at the same thing. Being bold, without being big-headed, is an admired characteristic, especially by those who usually shun at the idea of speaking out or trying again and again after many failed attempts. Confidence is contagious because it brings comfort to those who seek inspiration, direction and reassurance – your boldness can encourage and lead others – take advantage to lead by setting great examples of how to stand up to tribulations and overcome troubles.
“In whom we have boldness and access with confidence through faith in Him.”
Ephesians 3:12, NJKV
Putting yourself in other people’s shoes helps to openly show compassion to those who are suffering in a moment of time. Everyone knows how it feels to be hurt, to be stressed, to grieve – it is a dark, lonely period – but it does not have to remain that way. Demonstrating empathy is not taking on the suffering of others and they walk free but it is a way of communicating the willingness to try and understand, and to help take off the load of a heavy burden.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep”
Romans 12:15, NKJV
Pay close attention to those who are hurting, depressed, lonely and suffering; simple gestures such as asking others whether they’re okay once you notice they are a little quieter than usual can go a long way and save a life. A beautiful person notices when others are not themselves, even when they’re laughing and smiling. A beautiful person carries on showing care for those who have rejected help and continues to try although aware they may not get far. You may get knocked down a few times but this burning urge to ensure all is well, is what pushes you act on the little things you notice.
“Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4, NKJV
Being a beautiful person is doing things without limits; without expecting credit or anything in return and without wanting back what you gave away, the moment that person does you wrong. Unconditional love is expressed when one demonstrates it without waiting for a reason and certainly continues to show kindness and patience with difficult people. Unconditional love is not measured against what one is receiving in return or how much one is losing but instead, it continues to give to others, even if they are not worthy of it. This act of kindness brings peace, healing and strength – gifts which the world cannot give or take away if the act of love is coming from within.
27“But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28 bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.”
Luke 6:27-28, NKJV
We ought to accept that it is not through our own strength alone but through relying on God that we can be this person who continuously loves, helps, uplifts, serves and honours others before themselves. Many times we wait for others to show kindness before we return the favour, other times we wait on approval or acceptance from an “audience” before we decide on showing a character of humility, affection and care. A beautiful person trusts in the Lord that in all pain, rejection, judgement and reproach, he/she will continue to forgive, love and serve because we do not live to please men but we live to please God. We love others because God loved us first; but even when humans make it difficult to love and trust them, God gives us the strength to do so.
“Some trust in chariots, and some in horses; But we will remember the name of the Lord our God” Psalm 20:7, NKJV
Lead knowing you have followers; Teach knowing you have learners; Show knowing you have observers. A beautiful person sets good, positive examples through their actions, speech, mind-set, judgement and conduct. Even when you make mistakes, pick yourself up and try again because time will not wait for you. Do not hold onto grudges but be fast to apologise and forgive, but above that, live in love so that it supresses strife, conflict and division. You do not have to be someone in power, someone of great popularity (or status/position), or someone which a clean record to bring change or impact; your story or testimony alone is enough to teach others on how to go about life. A lot of what we do does not go unnoticed and a lot of it is contagious so we ought to carry ourselves the way we want others to be. We should strive to be the difference we want to see in others by purposefully setting good examples. A beautiful person strives to be and do the best they can, knowing they are planting good seeds for a fruitful future in others.
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity”
1 Timothy 4:12, NKJV
Take this moment to pray for those who have hurt you (every single person you can name and even those you cannot remember)… wish them well and pray God gives you the strength to let go of every grudge you held against them. A beautiful person recognises that forgiveness is the key to freedom from burdens, hate and division. A beautiful person wishes good things on those who hurt them because their heart is hopeful and pure. Return evil with love so that the enemy’s plan to see partitions can be conquered. It goes without saying that forgiveness involves swallowing pride and ego but is the ultimate path to being set free from captivity. Unlock your blessing by letting go of past pain and decide to forgive without wait. Be slow to anger, fast to forgive so that you can continue indulging in the blessings God has prepared for you.
“But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you”
Matthew 5:44, NKJV
There is power in unity; there is more chance of rebuilding and change if we unite and work towards the will of God together. The enemy does not want this. A beautiful person seeks ways in which to connect with those who alone, those who are lost but most importantly, those who have been persecuted. Unite and bring in the rejects, the sick, the “odd-one-out” and the ones who easily slip away because they are ignored, have low self-esteem or have no confidence. But also, unite with those you have argued with, disputed with or had a problem with. Do not allow differences to draw a line between you and others but instead, bring together ideas and embrace the unity of difference to transform and encourage one love.
“Do not strive with a man without cause, If he has done you no harm.”
Proverbs, 3:30, NKJV
Love, over and over again, purposefully with an open heart
Love heals, empowers, strengthens, unites, celebrates and longs for the goodness in others, oneself and in God. With everything mentioned above, love is what achieves them all. A beautiful person needs love in order to fulfil each characteristic and attitude mentioned because love is beyond them all. God is love; a beautiful person needs God because it is not through the ability of man alone to be able to remain a beautiful person in this generation. It is God who we need in order to be full of confidence, affection, passion, patience, trust, impact, energy…it is God who we need in order to be the person who He wants us to be so we can make this world a better place to be in.
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. NKJV
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